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Losing a loved one is never easy, but an unfortunate circumstance such as this can make getting through the holidays especially difficult. Christmas and New Year’s Eve is a time of celebration and family, but it isn’t the same when a loved one is missing. Your wrongful death attorney in the Kingsport and Johnson City area at the Law Offices of Michael R. Munsey, P.C., would like to share with you some ways of coping with the loss of a loved one during the holidays.
Grief is part of the healing process
Trust that grief is part of the natural healing process of losing a loved one. There’s an adage that says, “time will heal all wounds,” but anyone who has lost a loved one knows that the pain will never go away. However, let yourself grieve and feel the pain if you need to – don’t bottle it up or try to push it away to get through it.
Set boundaries for yourself
You may not feel up to attending every holiday-themed party and get together this year. Instead, set some healthy boundaries for yourself, and don’t feel guilty about missing out on some of the holiday action here and there. Avoid forcing yourself to go to a holiday gathering when you just aren’t ready to maybe bring up memories that are too difficult to deal with at that time. While friends and family may insist that you come, you don’t have to agree to it, not every time.
Focus on the things you have control over
There are some things you can’t control, like how everyone else is full of joy this time of year, you can control certain aspects of your life. While you can’t really change the joyful holiday music at the store or the office, you can, however, choose to shop online if going out is too difficult. Maybe you scale down your holiday decorations or don’t decorate at all this year.
Be a planner
You may be thinking about your family holiday dinner on Christmas day, which probably lasts all of an hour or two, yet you have been dreading it for weeks. Toiling over it and how you may or may not feel when the time comes is going to accomplish nothing. Instead, be a planner so that you know how you will navigate the day. For example, maybe you drive yourself to the party so that you are able to leave if and when you need to. Plan ahead so that you don’t get caught putting yourself beyond your comfort zone.
Experience a range of emotions
Many people grieving over the loss of a loved one may feel guilty if they experience joy or happiness, let alone laughter. But, don’t let yourself feel guilty. Instead, experience a range of emotions. You are allowed to laugh one minute, and then cry another.
Honor your loved one
The holidays are the perfect time to honor your lost loved one either by lighting a candle in their absence or preparing and eating their favorite dish. This can serve as a symbol that although your loved one has passed on, your love for them will never cease.
Start a new tradition by being kind to others
Sometimes shifting the focus on someone else can help you deal with your grief. Think of a way to show kindness to others, and maybe even turn this event or act into a new holiday tradition. Seeing joy and gladness on someone else’s face because of something kind that you did may help you deal with your grief better.
Ask for help
Never be afraid to ask for help if you find that you are struggling during the holidays or any other time of year. Dealing with the loss of a loved one is the most difficult aspects of our lives, something that affects us all at some point in time. Call on another family member or close friend, even dial a free hotline if you really need to talk.
Wrongful Death Attorney in Kingsport
Dealing with the loss of a loved one is undoubtedly the most difficult thing to do. This can be even worse when you’ve lost a loved one in a wrongful death circumstance. If this is the case for you, contact one of the top rated attorneys in the Tri-Cities area of Tennessee at the Law Offices of Michael R. Munsey, P.C. Call (276) 451-2056 to schedule your free consultation.
Serving the injured and disabled for more than 30 years, the Law Offices of Michael R. Munsey, P.C., provides legal services in the areas of Bristol, Johnson City, and Kingsport, Tennessee, as well as Bristol, Virginia. We wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!